Girls, Guys and Premenstrual Syndrome (PMS)
Ever wondered why your girlfriend, whose caring, loving and considerate attitude suddenly takes a U-turn to express anger and hatred in the form of verbal or physical abuse? She is happy at this moment and in a blink of an eye she starts crying. She suffocates you with her love at one moment and by the time you start getting a feel of it, she sees you as her worst enemy. You might have also observed that this weird behavior of hers is evident only during certain days in a month.
Welcome to the world of girls and their archrival for ages – Premenstrual Syndrome!
Premenstrual Syndrome or PMS as it is nicknamed, is a condition experienced by more than 85% of the women every month, a couple of weeks before their menstrual cycle begins. It is characterized by a wide range of physical and psychological symptoms. The term PMS is a combination of emotional and physical changes such as depression, mood swings, sensitive breasts, fatigue, specific food cravings, nervousness etc.
These symptoms gradually reduce as the woman nears her menstrual period and do not reappear until two or three weeks before her next monthly period begins.
What causes PMS then?
PMS remains an enigma to the scientists throughout the world, as the exact cause of it is not yet known. But, several factors are attributed to play a major role in its occurrence.
1. Hormonal Changes:
Fluctuations in female hormonal levels just after ovulation and before the start of menses are linked to PMS.
2. Chemical Reactions:
Certain chemical reactions occurring in the brain could also cause PMS. Symptoms like fatigue, depression, food cravings and sleep problems are due to the presence of insufficient levels of a hormone known as serotonin.
Although stress does not cause PMS, it plays a role in aggravating the symptoms.
4. Improper Eating Habits:
Poor eating habits that lead to low level intake of vitamins and minerals can trigger certain symptoms. Increased intake of alcoholic beverages and caffeine can cause mood swings.
Symptoms of PMS:
You will be surprised to know that there are about 150 symptoms of this mysterious condition.
Some of the most common ones are:
1. Physical Symptoms:
- Food cravings or changes in appetite
- Acne flare-ups
- Hot flashes
- Swollen and tender breasts
- Constipation, diarrhea and bloated abdomen
2. Emotional Symptoms:
- Mood swings, irritability, crying spells or tension and anger outbursts on others.
- Depression or anxiety.
- Temporary loss of concentration or memory.
- Loss of sex drive.
- Low confidence levels.
- Feeling sad and hopeless.
- Sleep problems.
Got a Girlfriend with PMS? Read on!
By now you might have got a clear picture of the symptoms of PMS in a girl. Depending on these, if you estimate your girlfriend’s behavior, you can come to a conclusion whether your girlfriend is a PMS victim or not.
Apart from the ones mentioned above, you might have felt the effects of PMS directly.
The next question that pops up in your mind is How to deal with PMS Girlfriend?
Here is the step-by-step guide.
- Understand PMS:
The very first thing you need to understand is that PMS is an uncontrollable condition your girlfriend is going through. This is very commonly seen in most of the women. Her behavioral patterns during this period are not in her hands. You are inviting your wrath if you blame her.
- Never Commit the Sin of Assuming Things:
Guys beware. Wait until she tells you that she is PMSing. Just because you are now aware of the fact the she has PMS, never ever assume and ask her if she is PMSing. She can get offensive and will not hesitate to hit you with sharp and painful words.
- Don’t Take Anything Personal:
Get into the habit of considering this period of hers as different from the daily routine. Make it a point to remind yourself to not take anything to heart when you have a heated conversation with her during this period. In other words, you can either become a sponge, absorbing everything that is hitting you without losing your cool or become like rubber, bouncing back with large amounts of compassion.
- Be Patient:
All you need to do is listen to what she is saying. Even if you feel offended, try to take the argument in a constructive direction. This phase of hers is just momentary. She may hate you now, but she will start loving you the way she used to after a couple of hours or a day.
- Be Extra Nice:
Instead of making fun of her or criticizing about her condition, let your Mr. Nice qualities surface and shower her with them. If she is a chocolate lover, surprise her with her favorite brand. If flowers make her day, get her a special bouquet. Similarly if she is an ice cream freak, take her on a date to her favorite ice cream parlor. Play with words, make her feel special and let her know how much she means to you.
- Do not Enter Her “Space:”
If your girlfriend belongs to the category of ‘extremes’, leave her alone. The less she sees you during this time, the better. If she is the jealous and insecure type, the very first thing you need to do is to inform her of your whereabouts from time to time.
So guys all you need to do is lend your shoulder for her to cry on and make her feel happy by showering affection. More than anything else accept the fact that she is living with PMS!