Bad Romance – Do You Regret Your Last Love?
Do you have any regrets in your love life? Strains of “My Way” notwithstanding, Americans actually do have more than just a few regrets – especially about their romantic liaisons. According to a new study, it was found that career, education and even family relations haunted the “go-getter” crowd.
Romantic Blues – About the Study
Researchers at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign and Northwestern University studied and analysed phone surveys of nearly 370 adults. These participants were asked to explain in detail one point or decision which they regretted the most.
Work and love seemed to divide the genders in the field of regret. It was found that women had more regrets about romance when compared with men – 44% women vs. 19% men. On the other hand, men had more work-related regrets when compared to women – 34% men vs. 27% women.
The Study Findings
In the forthcoming issue of Personality Science and Social Science, these study findings would be published:
- People with low education levels were most likely to regret their shortcomings in the field of education. But, Americans with high standards of quality education had more regrets related to their career plans.
- Individuals were evenly divided on regrets about situations they did not act on vs. those they acted on. Individuals who regretted situations and events they did not act on held onto their regret for a longer time.
- People who were devoid of any love life and currently single were more prone to have romance regrets.
Regrets – The Science Behind it!
After much discussion and brainstorming, the question arises – what does regret exactly consist of? Psychological researchers say that regrets are a part of the vicious cycle of what-might-have-beens which incorporate themselves into the never-ending life narrative that goes on in our heads. A few of these thoughts are directly useful and benign.
For example, the observation “I should have practised harder for my game” can actually motivate people to strive harder and perform better the next time. This has been proved by research. They think that these instances of self-betrayals permanently mar our experiences. These may include cases like staying away from ageing parents, a move across the country, an unfinished educational degree or marriage ended too soon.