Working Mothers Perform A Dual Role
Working women have changed the history in the U.S. unlike anything else. The number of working women has multiplied from 18.4 million to 69 million from 1950 to 2004. This is stated according to the Bureau of Labor statistics. This change has not only changed the work culture but also the model of the family. Women working outside of the home has enabled the building of a new culture for working mothers. Till the 1970s, balancing both work and family was never in fashion and also grabbed very little attention. But today this has been a part of life for millions of women. They tackle this every day. Their work begins with dinner, bedtime stories, preparing kids for school, and then getting engaged in their own work. Today’s mother is not happy anymore to only play the traditional roles of child-rearing and social obligations. She can prove her vital position in the world.
Women are born with the skill of multi-tasking. This skill is more or less converted into an art in the past five years. And working mothers seek to gain a mastery over it. Working mothers are now quite popular and they are becoming assets to their employers. So employers are now coming up with arrangements for working mothers. Twenty years ago, such activities were never even heard of. Now women are provided with part-time options, on-site childcare, family leave and many more benefits.
But above all the psychology has not changed much in the people around women who work for a living. This results in guilt in a mother who is working and taking up a dual role of being an efficient mother and a dedicated employee. Some conclude that mothers going out to work are forcing their children in to daycare centers; and because of this it is affecting their growth and upbringing. The guilt occurs as a side effect of all these myths and facts associated with mothers workingoutside thehome. But the truth is different. It is the family background, the way of living and the financial position of the family, which affects the child; not their living at the daycare center. A mother must spend quality time with her baby; it’s not the quantity of time which is often measured.
It’s never a reciprocal view. Even today’s fathers are dedicating time for their family. They share responsibilities with their wives. They not only take an active role in child-rearing but also dedicate equal effort in performing various household activities. Dads are no more the typical fathers of 25 yearsago. They are now changing their habits actively to be able to spend more productive time with their family.
The truth is that it is really hard for a mother to keep everything balanced. So the first thing she does is to map out a schedule. A properly planned routine will smooth out the roughness of a hectic day. Time is very precious to her. So it’s up to her how to find ways to manage her life. But this never means that you must be a superhero and dedicate doing even unnecessary things wholeheartedly. Take time for yourselfas well. This will help you in organizing your day. An example would be if you have older children who can do certain tasks for themselves, they should be expected to do these things for you. Keeping things simple and basic will be really helpful.
Your role does not end up only between your work and kids. Do not forget your marriage. Divert some quality time towards your married life also. Share your responsibilities with your spouse so that you both have some time to spend with each other.