Talking to Teens About Healthy Relationships
Adolescence is significant phase of life where adolescents delve for new and budding relations viz, beaus and girlfriends. Building proper relationships during this stage enable teens to have healthy relationships in the future. However,adolescents cannot build healthy relationships by themselves – they need the help of their parents, teachers, coaches.
Its not uncommon to see that adolescents have unhealthy relationships. Studies show that every 1 teen among 11 teens is physically hurt, intentionally, by a girlfriend or boyfriend. Along with physical hurt, other aspects such as hurting a person emotionally, dictating the way someone dresses etc. can indicate an unhealthy relationship. Hence, it is very important for adults and espcially parents to talk to teens about healthy relationships.
When a teen misses healthy relationships, he/she may get into unhealthy relationships filled with anger, frustration, low self-esteem, and physical abuse. These aspects of an unhealthy relationship can encourage a teen to take up unhealthy behaviors such as drug addition, binge drinking, fighting and suicide attempts.
What are Healthy Relationships?
Healthy relationships are the ones in which people respect each other . They would be able to speak freely, honestly and share their decisions. The relationship is marked by trust and support. People in healthy relationships would respect each other decisions and independence.
Contrary to this, unhealthy relationships are imbalanced, in which one person tries to control the other. Such relationships may also involve insults, mean language and physical abuse.
Why Should Adults Speak To Adolescents About Healthy Relationships?
Experts opine that the earlier kids and teens learn how to build healthy relationships, the more likely they are to have such relationships. Parents should teach their kids how to interact positively with others and build positive relationships. Here are some skills parents can work on their kids:
- Anger management: Knowing how to manage anger in non-violent and proper way
- Respect: Respecting others decisions, feelings and well-being
- Compromising/Negotiation: Making decision so that each partner is satisfied and a win-win situation is created
- Assertion without Aggression: Speaking to other person clearly without threatening, and respecting your rights and the rights of others