Marriage Tips for the Young
Many first marriages are ending in divorce. Still we will marry so what should we do to keep our relationships alive. Here are some suggestions from Patti Faughn, Family Life Educator in the Springfield Center, Rutgers University:
- If you make marriage a top priority you will gain from your marriage. Married people are generally healthier, wealthier and happier.
- Learn and practice relationship skills like dating relationships and marriage.
- Education makes a difference. People with more education are more likely to marry and less likely to divorce.
- Delay sexual activity to avoid heartaches and regrets such as sexually transmitted infections, teen pregnancy, and HIV by waiting until you are older and/or married.
- Marry only after you are at least twenty years old. Teens are two to three times more likely to get divorced.
- Have a child only after you marry and are at least 20 years old. Teen mothers are likely to live in poverty and never finish high school. Children of unwed parents face greater risks for depression, mental illness, crime, poverty, substance abuse, school drop out, teen pregnancy and suicide.
- Know the person you plan to marry. Know each other’s backgrounds, goals, personalities, beliefs and values because all these would increase the likeliness of success in marriage.
- Living together before marriage is linked to a less satisfying marriage and a higher divorce risk. So, refrain from living together outside of marriage.
- Strengthen your relationship with a trusted adult. Those who share their life and concerns with a caring adult have fewer problems. Whether it’s a parent, relative, pastor or teacher, find an adult who is a positive role model.
- Premarital courses can help you have a satisfying marriage and see how well matched you are as a couple. So, take a premarital course with your partner before marriage.